In following up with our Eternity Series (from a while ago), here are a few more answers to questions concerning Relationships:
Will We Desire Relationships with Anyone Except God?Christ is
“the Alpha and the Omega, the First and the Last” (Revelation 22:13). He alone
is sufficient to meet all our needs.
However, God
has also designed us for relationships not only with himself but also with
others. After God
created the world, he pronounced it “very good." But
before He was done, He said that it was not good for man to be alone. I will
make a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18). Though we will need and desire no one more than Jesus in Heaven, he will still be glorified by our relationships with each other.
Will we keep our Friendships?Receiving
a glorified body and relocating to the New Earth doesn’t erase history; we will still remember our lives. Heaven
won’t be without families, rather we will be one big family, in which all
family members are friends and all friends are family members. We’ll have
family relationships with any and all people. That’s
why we call other believers our “brothers and sisters” now. If you
lived this life without the relationships God meant for you, you will have them
in eternity.
Now we get to a few harder questions:
Is there Marriage in Heaven?The Bible
is not clear about marriage after death. But allow
me to present briefly both sides of the issue.
Those who
quickly say “no”, refer to the comment made by Jesus in Matthew 22 (also
repeated in Luke 20:27-38 and Mark 12:18-27) Vs.29 "Jesus replied, 'You are in error because you do
not know the Scriptures or the power of God. 30 At the resurrection people will
neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven."
Those who say ‘No Marriage’ Point to:- The
purpose of Marriage in Genesis was because Man felt alone on the earth…and thus
he was given a close help mate. In the
Immediate Heaven, there is no reason to be alone, or feel alone. All needs will be met there. We
clearly can still have a close relationship with our spouse, but we will have a
similar relationship with all our brothers and sisters in Christ.
- Another
argument is that marriage was also for procreation…and there is no need for
that in the new Earth.
- We are
married to Christ. That the
church is the bride of Christ, and the earthly marriage is only a picture of
what that marriage will be like.
- The
Law of marriage is dissolved by death. Romans is clear that the law of marriage comes to an end at death. (Romans 7:2)
Thus we are properly 'married' to Christ in eternity.
Those who say Marriage Continues in Heaven:
- Jesus may have given the Sadducees an indirect answer. Some say
that, like numerous other passages, Jesus doesn’t answer their questions
directly, but rather what they needed to hear, usually concerning their true
intention. The
Sadducees did not believe in the future bodily resurrection, and thus Jesus
twice notes the resurrection in His answer to them. They felt
that by asking this questions that was too hard to answer, they would make
Jesus stumble, even more proving their position of no resurrection. Jesus could possibly be simply commenting on the legal contract.
If we don’t die in the future resurrected life, than there is no legal
contract to a spouse.
- Jesus is
simply saying what heaven is NOT like. Some
theologians suggest that Jesus is saying that people just are not “given”
in marriage in heaven. They say
Jesus is simply saying that in heaven they do not arrange weddings in the same
way that people do on earth.
- God
made marriage to be beautiful before the fall of sin. Genesis
1:27 shows us that in a perfect world He made them male and female, and it was
VERY good, then why wouldn’t that continue in the future Earth They say
that if our relationship with God is like a marriage, would it make sense that
what He likens it to would end at death?
- True
marriage was meant to be an eternal covenant. Matthew
19:6 - "So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined
together, let man not separate." Perhaps the Bible
does not teach there will be no marriage in Heaven. Rather it shows one very
important marriage, between Christ and his bride—and we’ll all be part of it. Paul shows
that human marriage is a mirror to our relationship with Christ:
Ephesians
5:31-32 - “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united
to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery—but
I am talking about Christ and the church.”
Our union
on Earth points to our relationship with Christ as our bridegroom. Once we
reach the destination, our picture of that eternal relationship becomes
unnecessary. Our marriage to Christ will be so satisfying, that even the most
wonderful earthly marriage couldn’t be as fulfilling.
Will there be Intimacy in Heaven?
As we
talked about, we will remain male and female in our resurrection bodies. If human
marriage existed before the fall, I would expect it to be a part of the renewal
of all things. God made sex to be
beautiful, and I do not except that it is unworthy of eternity.
However
some reason that this the one exception to the rule. They say that sexual relations had a purpose
of populating the Earth. Now that that
is no longer necessary, neither is sex. Also, if you believe marriage does not continues, then there is probably no sexual intimacy in Heaven as well.
If that answer disappoints you, keep in mind that children often think there is nothing better in life than their limited understanding allows. It stands to reason that we cannot even imagine of the great things in heaven, that will far surpass the good things here.
Will there be newborn Babies in Heaven?
Most
theologians do NOT believe there will be procreation in the
Future Heavens and Earth. The wait we have now for eternity is for the preordained number of saved to come to pass. Thus once Heaven has a designated population saved, that is the number that will reside in the New Heavens and Earth for eternity.
(Hope this was helpful. You are always free to ask questions and respond in the comments below.)